What are you doing here? Got nothing to do? No errands? No friends to meet?
If no, here’s a quick question.
If you forgot how old you are, what would you like to do?
Don’t worry about the answer, because there are plenty. And it will keep changing. Here’s where I’m attempting to make sense – when we ask ourselves the questions that matter, we find a lot more than just the answers. Discovering yourself is a long process, so don’t hurry it. It’ll happen. You don’t want to end up finding someone you don’t really like.
We do many things for many reasons. We work hard, party hard, and even worry hard. Little things can help us out. Little things like questions can help streamline it, enrich it, and make it more enjoyable.
For example, instead of saying “sorry mom, I know it’s been over a week since we spoke.” Ask “so mom, what did you with all the free time?” While this is a question that you have posed to your mom, it’s also posed at you. It is so, because you will get an opportunity to learn something more about your mom, and you will be a catalyst in helping her thinking about newer things to do in your absence. We’d all like our moms to get busy right? Else they’ll just worry.
Life will give you many opportunities to throw long statements with facts, figures, and philosophies, but are you really making a difference? To your own life first.
Earlier this year, I asked myself – Am I ready for a promotion? My boss thinks so. But, do I need the added responsibility? I’ll surely get more money. But, is the money the problem in my life? Is it not he independence to do more things like writing this blog, going to party more friends, writing a book (that has still not started), maybe joining a theatre group, etc. I refused the offer. And I stand by it.
Instead of saying that I miss playing badminton, I asked “Have I quit playing badminton?” It hasn’t been too long, but I’ve started playing again. Asking helped.
Questions work like deep breathing. They give peace, stability, and the strength to move on.
More examples?
Why do I need to famous at a young age? Do I plan on being useless after 40?
If my friend said something harsh, did it hurt him/her as much as it hurt me?
Am I really incapable of making any concrete change to the world’s hunger/poverty issue?
Don’t be in a hurry to answer. Let the question take you, to you.
Don’t Answer. Ask!